“…just take some ex-lax and let the isht go,”—Chris “Ludacris” Bridges

Was it, Ludacris? I don’t know…sounds like something he’s said. Whatever. Ask yourselves the following in any stressful or annoying situation:

Is it worth it?

Probably not, Sis.

Alright, so boom: how many of y’all work in customer service or other highly stressful careers? If you’re an introvert and a bit of an empath then you know how draining each day can be. Sometimes you end up letting a bad encounter get the best of you and it ends up ruining a perfectly good day. Anger leads to stress and stress leads to illness and that can lead to death. Bruh, ain’t nobody got time for that!

Recently, a lot of changes took place at my job and I put a lot of pressure on myself in terms of performance and dealing with people and one day my body just hit me with a massive “nah” and sidelined me for a weekend. When I went back to work, I realized that nothing negative that I could get from the customers or what was going on around me was worth getting upset over. I can’t take things personally. It’s seriously not worth it.

I’ve found myself not getting angry since that weekend. Especially over petty things that couldn’t possibly improve from a negative reaction. I’m not arguing unnecessarily—I’m letting everyone get everything that’s got nothing to do with me off their chest and hoping that it makes them feel better in the long run. Maybe they just needed someone to listen to them? Maybe they’re unhappy with themselves? Maybe they haven’t yet realized that it’s not worth it. I’ve started responding in politeness and just giving back the exact opposite of what they give me.

I can’t even begin to describe the sense of peace I’ve felt since making the conscious decision to let things go. When I feel myself wanting to react, I take a deep breath or I put my head down and breathe or I just take a break after the encounter. Drink some water and take a moment to be grateful for employment and reassure myself that I’m doing the best I can. Once that lightbulb went off in my head, I decided to practice more gratitude and grace. More inner peace and understanding. I’m straight turning into a hippie, y’all. And it honestly feels good.

The next time you find yourself in a position that could raise your blood pressure or alter your peace, let it go. Find something to be grateful for and focus on the good things happening in your life. Don’t give anyone the ability to control you in that moment. It’s just not worth it; I mean, think about it—is arguing with someone over something that neither of you have any control of and won’t change one thing or another really worth your time, effort, or health?

Let it go. Move on. You can’t fix the fact that someone else wasn’t loved enough as a child. Let them live with their unhappiness and in the meantime give yourself a big old Ray Charles hug because you’ve found peace. That’s a win bigger than getting the last word in any argument.

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4 thoughts on ““…just take some ex-lax and let the isht go,”—Chris “Ludacris” Bridges

  1. Tish says:

    I struggle with this the most. It’s very hard for me not to take things personally. I feel somehow responsible to fix the emotions of others and I need to do a Joey Gladstone and cut-it-out. I’ll try your suggestions and think about what I can be grateful for. It really isn’t worth it to win what most oftentimes are senseless arguments as you pointed out.

    • lookfabuless says:

      It’s definitely not the easiest thing to do especially when you just want to clarify, but their emotions are wrapped up way too tightly in the situation. I know that feeling, but you’re only responsible for you and doing the best you can. You can’t win them all, but you can win within

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