Charleston Black Girl Bloggers Brunch 

Hey y’all! I’ve been trying to wait a little while on posting about this event because I was missing a key element: pictures. A photographer was supposed to come and shoot, but never showed and I didn’t have anyone to run my social media or take pictures with my phone. I was so caught up in what was going on that I didn’t really think to take more pictures. 

My bad.


We had such a wonderful time on May 28th at Liberty Tap Room! It was disappointing that people who’d RSVPd didn’t show up or that the photographer didn’t show up or that I didn’t have extra help, but I’m so grateful to those women who thought it not robbery to come out and fellowship and talk about how we can make an impact in Charleston.

My goal for #CBGBB was to have black girl bloggers and entrepreneurs come together on a monthly basis to network and to hopefully learn something new, but I’ve realized that there’s the opportunity for so much more. I’m going to get more info prepared for our next event, but we’ve decided against meeting monthly. Just know that we’re going to make a major impact not just with blogging, but with business and the community as a whole.

I’d like so much to thank our product sponsors: Charleston Candle Co, GlōGirl Cosmetics, Lone Body Care, Dandy Boutique, and It Works distributor Keneshea Davenport. Their wonderful products were a hit with my guests!

(📸: Naye Gathers, Glam Bombshell, Inc.)

 I’d also love to thank Mac&Murphy, The Blue Root, and The Tiny Tassel for providing awesome door prizes for 4 lucky guests! 

(📸: Ireana Nathan, XOXO, I. Joelle)

Thank y’all again so much for not hesitating to help when I asked! Thank you for believing in my vision and for wanting to do something with this amazing group of black women! I also have to thank Ireana of XOXO, I. Joelle for speaking on the importance of creating our own opportunities and being our own cheerleaders. She really gave much needed words of wisdom and advice!


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 I hope y’all are following Ireana, as she’ll be hosting a blogging workshop later on this year with her brand, Flourish Blog Workshops. She’ll have more time to impart her wisdom to aspiring and current bloggers and influencers. We’re of the belief that we’ve got to make our own opportunities and not wait on any one to do it for us. From the photo shoot with The Tiny Tassel and Aneris Photography to #CBGBB to Flourish Blog Workshops–we’re making it known that we’re more than capable of holding and creating our own.

I wish I had more pictures to share amazing afternoon we had! I wanted to show off the sisterhood, the amazing door prizes, the lovely set up but I can’t. What I can share are some of the Instagram pics shared by my guests.


Feel free to follow Charleston Black Girl Bloggers Brunch on Instagram and follow the amazing guests and product and door prize sponsors as well! Check out their blogs and businesses and don’t be afraid of collaboration–it’s encouraged! It’s all about community over competition.


Thank you so much to everyone who came through like they said they would. Thank you to NaShonda Hunter who did what she didn’t have to do and without her this might not have been pulled off successfully. Thank you Liberty Taproom for providing us with such a wonderful space. Thank you. Thank You. THANK YOU!

book review: Smoke, Drink, F*#k

Hey y’all! A few months ago I got invited to a book review in West Virginia by accident. I guess someone thought I lived in Charleston, WV and not Charleston, SC. Anyway, after clearing up the confusion, I was asked if I’d like to review the book for my blog. There was no point in turning down the opportunity and the title certainly seemed interesting.

2 things about me: I really love autobiographies–I have both of Diahann Carroll’s (because duh) and they’re my favorite–and I hardly ever read because as someone who’s also a writer, I don’t want to confuse or cross my thoughts with someone else’s words. It’s seriously easy to do. I mean, I can creatively come up with my own stories, but I don’t want to get so caught up trying to create pictures of someone else’s words that mine get lost. 

Nevertheless, I persisted. It’s not a very long book, but it was pretty hard for me to follow. I couldn’t create mental pictures until she got to Italy and even then it was touch and go. It’s essentially a story of a woman reaching a life milestone and wanting to live life on her terms. To break free of the patterns and habits she’d created and what others see for her. This isn’t necessarily my struggle, but I get it.

The story didn’t resonate with me until she got the realization that things with her boo thing were falling apart. As a person with anxiety, when I don’t hear from someone who I like and who I think likes me for even a day I immediately think that they don’t like me anymore and it’s the end of the world.

True story. My brain freaks out. I go through stages of crying, feeling absolutely stupid, and fighting the urge to ask what I did wrong to avoid seeming desperate. I eventually ask and prepare to feel remorseful, only to be told things are fine. Anxiety is exhausting, y’all.

So, yeah. I felt that part of this tale to my core. Esme (the author) listed some lessons that she learned in Italy and I found them particularly helpful:

  1. Laugh
  2. Forget the rules 
  3. Be alert
  4. Be adored
  5. Savor things
  6. Be optimistic 
  7. Relax
  8. Let go
  9. Know what you want
  10. Try new things
  11. Do something every day that scares you
  12. Perfect on paper doesn’t mean perfect for you

Now if you want to know her detailed reasons for this list, you’re going to have to buy the book; but, I think we can all find the aspects of our lives where these apply. I really liked how this series (or 1, but I’m feeling really Lemony Snicket today) of unfortunate events caused her to put things in perspective and get her stuff together. A path I’m starting to head down, so this was quite helpful.

In a nutshell, I probably wouldn’t have picked this book out on purpose–well, the title would’ve gotten me, but I would’ve been mildly disappointed–but eventually, I was glad to have read it.

Smoke, Drink, F*#k was written by Esme Oliver and published by Riverdale Avenue Books. It can be purchased wherever books are sold in physical or digital formats.

the struggle: my bad

Hey y’all! Let’s get right to it, shall we? I haven’t blogged in awhile and you want to know why? Depression. It hit me like a ton of bricks awhile back. I was essentially just feeling down and the feeling really never went away. I kept wanting to write it out, but the feeling wouldn’t let me. It’s tough.

It makes me unproductive and my sadness goes through phases. There’ll be a little feeling of sadness that’s not too bad and then I could look in the mirror and see this awful acne that’s determined to ruin my grown person life and break down. The hardest, ugliest cry hit me over it one night while I was getting ready for bed.

Then anxiety and the depression decide to tag team and I’m crying myself to sleep because life thoughts are the worst. You’re not supposed to compare your life and what you’re going through to anyone else’s, but not when D&A team up. It just really sucks. I hate it. My doctor referred me to a therapist, but of course my insurance won’t exactly cover it. I was supposed to call, but work/procrastination/these feelings all got in the way.

I have to talk to someone and I hope to not need meds. Meds are the worst. I remember being on Paxil as a teenager and there were no good thoughts–especially when you miss a day or are trying to get off. The sickness was overwhelming. I don’t want meds, but they’re a thing that might help.

I don’t want to think about that. I wanted to get this off my chest and apologize for not being here more. I’ve done some good stuff in the interim and I’m planning something cool for the next month. Maybe event planning will be my calling? Who knows, but I’m having a pretty good time learning and working! That’s a petunia in this field of despair. 

Things will get better. I didn’t cry while writing this, so that’s a win. I claim every win I can. It’s working. Go me!

lifestyle changes

Hey y’all! Happy February! I’m taking a quick break in this looks for less week to just let you in on something I’ve been mulling over for awhile. Today is the first day of a lifestyle change that I hope to carry with me for the rest of my life.

Today I’m officially a dairy free pescatarian. I’ve been off beef (consciously) for maybe 2 years and I’m not a big poultry fan. The only meat I could eat constantly was pork. I’ve been watching my eating habits for awhile and decided that I wanted to cut meat from my diet. I also realized there was an option to keep seafood as a source of protein. I live in a port city. There’s seafood everywhere! This seems perfect for me.

I’ve gone back to meal planning and making sure I have enough good snacks to get me through the day. This first month might be mainly trial and error, but I’m determined to stick to it. I’m working on dealing with family and friends who probably won’t understand my dietary choices. I’m hoping for more support than criticism, but you can’t determine what people will say or think.

I’ve also started a board on Pinterest for pescatarian recipes and guides and you can feel free to follow and give me suggestions. Thanks so much for reading and giving any possible support!

a week of style and diversity in review

Hey y’all! Here’s a wrap up of this week on look fabuless: I was inspired by the Women’s Marches that took place all of the globe and I was frustrated by the ignorance of the current administration, so I let my creativity take control. I created looks that show not only the diversity in women, but the diversity of America. I played on phrases like “Average Joe” right on down to “Joe the Plumber” and made them feminine and fabulous.

I hope you enjoyed (and understood) the content this week!


Be on the look out for more great and hopefully thought provoking content to come 😊